4 Ways to Lower Stress in 4 Minutes or Less

Lowering your stress level—it’s a fact of life many coaching clients want to address. The sheer busyness of people’s day-to-day work lives causes many to feel stressed out, overwhelmed, and ill equipped to deal with situations that come their way. This past week, a client came into a coaching meeting feeling just that way. She…

The Connection between Pain and Coaching

It sounds odd, right? Why would pain have any connection to coaching? There are a number of definitions for the word pain. For our purpose, let us consider the Old French verb pener, which means “to strive for or endeavor.” At its most basic purpose, pain is an indicator—a messenger, if you will—from the body…

Four Gifts We Can Give Each Other: A Coaching Perspective

Last Sunday, my family gathered to celebrate my Dad’s 89th birthday. Some of the standout moments of the day were my four-year-old nephew greeting everyone with “Thank you for coming—do you want to play with me?” and my two-year-old niece gleefully offering to share her somewhat soggy graham crackers with anyone within a two-foot vicinity.…

Can Anyone Be A Coach? 4 Common Myths and Misconceptions

Over the last several days I’ve been working with a really wonderful client who offers their entire leader population all sorts of phenomenal development opportunities—including coaching skills training. While everyone agrees that coaching is a good thing, there is disagreement about how, when, and where coaching should be applied. Here are some myths and misconceptions…

Dos and Don’ts for Dealing with a Disillusioned Direct Report

People cycle through four predictable stages when presented with a new task or goal at work. If it’s something they’ve never done before, they’ll usually start out as an enthusiastic beginner—full of confidence but short on experience. This is followed by a dip in commitment and competence as the challenge of learning something new settles…

Generosity and Leadership

A young woman of my acquaintance (let’s call her Jillian) recently reminded me of an important life lesson. Jillian is quite simply an amazing human being and, at 17, has entered the workforce as a retail worker at the mall. The job has given her a chance to experience many different aspects of human behavior—both…

Four Steps to Being More Coach-Like in Your Conversations

“How did you do that?” This is a question we hear often from Blanchard clients. In a recent conversation with an organizational sponsor, I was asked to explain how Blanchard coaches were able to consistently help leaders in a high potential coaching program to make changes that stuck. Our client knew all about the skills…

Leaders—What Are Your Word Choices Saying about You?

Several years ago when I began coaching, I was taught that it was important to focus closely on the language choices made by clients. For example, clients who said they would try to change a behavior, read an email, or follow up on a difficult situation inevitably failed. Clients who said “I will” were much…

Mindfulness and Leadership: Three Easy Ways to Be a Better Leader

In the world of coaching, we’ve long practiced and shared the concepts of mindfulness with clients because we’ve seen and felt the results. Mindfulness as it’s practiced as a part of leadership development can take many forms, from something as simple as NOT multitasking or as intentional as active listening, or regulating self-talk. So, how…