Coaching Others? Put Your Own Mask on First

Anyone who has ever flown has heard these words: “Should a drop in cabin pressure occur, put your own mask on first.”  Yes, in order to help others, you must take care of yourself first. Since I almost always ponder life through the filter of coaching, this brings to mind three of my recent clients:…

Coaching Done Right—4 Steps that Set People Up for Success

It’s important to ensure that people who are about to receive coaching are set up for success. When using coaching as a development methodology, an experienced coach will take four steps to make sure the engagement has the best chance to achieve desired outcomes. Here’s what to look for in the coaching interactions you set…

Coaching Matrix ROI

Measuring Coaching from Four Perspectives

Getting to a great outcome for coaching can be tricky. Clients—the recipients of coaching—can always tell you if they enjoyed the process. They can even tell you if they found coaching to be helpful. But it’s often more difficult to determine the actual value in business terms or in life outcomes. What happens on the…

3 Ways to Recognize the Gifts to Be Found in Turmoil

In times of turmoil, we may forget that we are surrounded by blessings. Even adversity can bring a gift when we look through the lens of gratitude. An avid “yachtee,” my 90-year-old dad recently cut himself while on his boat, which resulted in a four-day stay in the hospital. Now I’m on deck as his…

3 Classic Coaching Techniques—a Butterfly’s Journey

  Coaching a senior leader can be complicated. They have lots of demands on their time, huge decisions to make, and often do not get a lot of direct, honest feedback from people around them. In fact, coaching anyone can be complicated—because humans are complicated. We are constantly scanning our mental and physical landscapes for…

10 Things to Get Out of Your Head to Become Fully Present

In coaching there is a concept we refer to as being fully present.  It means a number of things such as paying full and conscious attention to the person you are coaching. It also means quieting internal mental chatter—in other words, getting out of your own head.  It can be one of the hardest skills…