One time you shouldn’t treat co-workers like family

One of the most overlooked gaps in well-meaning organizations is recognizing the need to treat internal customers even BETTER than external customers—at least initially.  Within an organization, it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking of your fellow employee as your family that you can treat however you want because “they have to love me, they’re family,” when in reality, they are your most important customer.  Why?  Because how we treat each other within the organization is a reflection of how we are going to treat our external customers in the long term.

One of the first things to think about then, as we look at creating a culture of service, is how well do we ask for and listen to feedback from teammates on how we are serving them.  Let me give you a great example I heard just this past week to illustrate this point.

I have a very good friend who is a professional golfer on the PGA Tour. My husband and I had dinner with him last week and he shared with us how he meets with his team at the beginning of each year to set goals for the season.  I was surprised to hear that in addition to his caddy, he has a personal trainer, a swing coach to help him with his golf swing, a short game coach to help him with his short game, and his agent.  While in their meeting, my friend gave his swing coach some feedback about how he would like to see him out on the golf course more to be able to better analyze his swing and offer suggestions.  The swing coach did not like the feedback his team member (as well as his boss!) gave him, and became very defensive about the feedback and was clearly not open to hearing it.  The end result was that my friend hired a new swing coach who was committed to delivering on the service my friend was looking for.

Good service begins at home

Just because we work for the same company doesn’t mean we should treat our fellow employees as second class citizens. On the contrary, we need to listen to them and thank them for their feedback the same way we would to an external customer.  My friend’s swing coach didn’t understand the idea of “serving the golfer” to help him get better and it cost him his job.

Ideally, this internal customer focus will start at the top of the organization with senior leaders recognizing the importance of consistently providing both the positive and constructive feedback to employees about what is expected of them, praising them for what they do well, and giving them ideas where they can improve.  Next, individual department leaders should continue the process by encouraging team members to ask for feedback from each other, as well as from other departments on how well they are serving them.

Learn from the positive and the negative

One important note about negative feedback.  When someone complains about your service, or shares some unpleasant feedback with you, remember they must care enough about you to share it and want you to improve, so thank them for the feedback!  If my friend’s swing coach had done that, he probably would still have his job!!!

About the author:

Kathy Cuff is one of the principal authors—together  with Vicki Halsey–of The Ken Blanchard Companies’ Legendary Service training program.  Their customer service focused posts appear on the first and third Thursday of each month.

5 thoughts on “One time you shouldn’t treat co-workers like family

  1. Thanks for the posting Kathy.

    Feedback is obviously very critical for leaders to accept and provide. Both can be very difficult to do. We learn through feedback, so it is truly a gift. We need it to grow. But sometimes people like your friends swing coach don’t want to hear it. I find it interesting that as a coach he provides it all day, but doesn’t want it for himself. Leaders many times do the same thing and lose the opportunity to get better at what they do.

    And sometime leaders are not good at providing feedback – especially difficult feedback, which in my opinion is often for selfish reasons because they don’t want the negative reaction of the one getting the feedback. Leaders that really care, give feedback because they care.

    Mike Rogers
    http://www.teamworkleadership.com

    • Thanks, Mike for your comment. I agree with you that Leaders show they care when they are willing to give the constructive and/or negative feedback. Interestingly, when I ask people what has been their WORST performance review they have ever had, many times what they say is when their boss didn’t give them any negative or constructive feedback–something to improve on. Even if we don’t agree with that person’s feedback, we should at least step back and see if there is any truth to it…

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